(Not a well-written blog. Something I wanted to write for a long time. Below are some scribbles about seemingly tough times, being resilient, and how sometimes shifting gears is a better strategy)
"life in office" has to be separated from "life at home": is something I have always believed. However, some events leave a lasting impression in your office life, and which is made me write this blog-post. With readers in decline, this post will likely be read by me or few others, which is WAI. Getting promoted to the next level is something I wanted to do since I joined Google. Targeting the next cycle for promotion was always in my mind. Primarily because I wanted to not feel bad about myself, and be able to look myself in the mirror. This marks the starting of my mistakes. You see, things do not always go the straight way in corporate and so in life, and hoping things will go straight is not right. I spent 2023 in worries, endlessly. For around 2 to 3 months, I cut contact with all the people. I barely texted anyone, de-activated socials, and had bad some pretty fucked up thoughts. This is continued the series of my mistakes. (You see, this blog-post is all about the fuck ups I did). I wanted to get it all, fast, and just leave (where? maybe now I know). I started worrying, a lot. Having trouble sleeping, and having work dreams. Life had suddenly become stressful. I should not have over-thought it. Every day, I used to fear, staying at home, going for work, everything was f'ed up. You see, months before I moved to a single occupancy flat (this thing started out good at first, but see single-occupancy does not work well when you start listening to each thought in your head. Its you vs you, and not in a good way. In a doomed way.). One fine day, I had lost all my hope, I watched myself in the mirror, laughed. This should not be the end of it; it wasn't.
Finally: I was able to solve. What bugs my is my approach to the problem could have been subtle, calm: this is something we should note. Now, if you stick with a problem long enough, you fix it, but you should still enjoy the happy moments in life. I found who my actual friends are, and filtered some randoms I called friends (one of my best friends has pointed out that label people too easily as friends, he is right.)
Things which helped: Socializing, Worshiping, Not Judging, Deep breathing, Reading (not the fucked up kinda reading, the real books), Coffee (I might need to cut down now), Sketching.
Learning:
I. Don't Make Imaginary Races: 'cos real ones exist, and you cannot risk losing the real ones just 'cos you were winning some imaginary one. Zoom-out, look at the real threats, not the random shit inside your head.
II. It's Not Always The Direct Way: CEO's didn't become CEO's by doing what their managers told them to. Write Bros didn't fly because someone gave them a manual. Manuals stop now, its free world. (this might deserve a separate blogpost).
III. Jerks Exist: and they hide in plain sight. This time some couple screwed you over, not let this happen the other time. "The jerks who know they are jerks are lesser jerks, than those who don't know they are". Find, and eliminate the latter from your life.
Note to Self: Please value some people more in your life. Only those. Not others. They deserve more value. They are few but real.
Cheers,
M